Why falling for the idea of brand love can backfire

Your customer does not love your toothpaste. Please cancel the anniversary film.

They buy it because the pack is recognisable, it is on the shelf and nobody at home objects. A software team renews because the product works and migration looks like a miserable quarter. The commuter visits the same coffee chain because it sits between the station and the office. None of these people is waiting to “deepen the relationship”. They are trying to get on with Wednesday.

Brand-love language makes ordinary commercial strengths sound shamefully dull. Availability, habit, reliability and recognition are replaced by movements, communities and requests for intimate user-generated stories. The marketing department claims a role in customers’ identities that customers would find faintly alarming if stated over dinner.

Emotion matters. Some brands carry genuine affection or status. But devotion is a result occasionally earned, not a strategy slide that grants permission to behave like a needy boyfriend.

Be easy to notice. Be easy to buy. Keep the promise. Give memory something distinctive to hold. If affection follows, lovely. If habit follows, that can pay the wages too. A customer who repeatedly chooses the product without composing a sonnet is not a failed relationship. It may be the healthiest one a brand gets.

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